Today. I want to talk about something that has been ¨bothering, worrying, occupying my mind lately¨. The pattern I see in some of my clients and people I work with. I want to be clear and direct, so please keep reading.
They are a badass! In a good way, they have succeeded tremendously in their lives. Some of them are managers, bosses or have important roles within a company, which means they have put a lot of energy, time and effort to succeed on their careers.
Some of them have their lives unbalanced. They feel a lot of anxiety, or lack of confidence, they don’t get along with their life partners or fight too much or don’t accept who They truly are. I have noticed this pattern, sometimes people focus too much in a single area of their lives, because the other is too complicated, too hard to look at. Work, career and money is easy in a short term. They have dedicated the last 10 years of their lives to grow academically and to succeed at work. In some cases, though, they were doing this because they were running away from something else:
- Low self/esteem
- Conflicts from the past
- Vulnerability. (Amongst others)
Usually, this creates a situation where they are building up all their strength out of what they accomplish, out of achieving but not feeling. And the problem is that sooner or later they reach a glass ceiling and that is when anxiety, strong emotions or feelings get too tough and being with themselves becomes “too uncomfortable”. At that moment it is when They decide to go therapy or start coaching. When they reach this glass ceiling it is as well due to not being able to grow and keep going forward anymore, this glass ceiling is the metaphor of not allowing themselves to feel. Remember that emotion, means motion (movement) and they are what allow us to keep going forward and learn. When we have suppressed our emotions for too long we feel trapped, not free, we can even feel like we are just mere observers of our life. Pure disconnection.
Why is that? Because they have been running away from something. Many times, this part they have been running away from and avoiding to look at is how they felt as kids, too vulnerable, weak or not good enough.
What to do then? Feel. Let me put it this way. FEEL.
In the beginning you may feel uncomfortable and vulnerable. But only through allowing yourself to feel those trapped emotions you will be able to understand and let go to feel free, stronger and more connected with yourself. Once you empty the “cup” the mind understands and you can grow from it.
Want to know if your life is unbalanced…if you may need some improvement in some specific areas?
Check this: the wheel of life and follow instructions.
What is the Wheel of Life?
The Wheel of Life is a simple but powerful tool that helps you visualize all the important areas of your life at once. It is often used by life coaches and career coaches to give their clients a “bird’s eye” view of their lives. By looking at a visual representation of all the areas of your life at once, the wheel helps you to better understand which of your life areas are flourishing and which ones need the most work.
How do I use the Wheel of Life?
The online assessment tool is simple to use. Just click the button to start your wheel and the interactive system will guide you through the process of rating each area of your life, one at a time. When you are done, you can print your wheel, save it as a PDF, or share it with your friends on Facebook and other social media.
How long does it take to fill out my wheel?
The assessment can usually be filled out in less than a minute.
THANK YOU!!! And tell me. Is your life balanced?